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How Sleep Training Strengthened Our Bond As Mother and Baby

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Sleep training entails helping your baby learn to fall asleep on his or her own without using external aids like nursing, rocking or pacifier. While it can take just days or so, best results will come when baby has had enough restful naps beforehand.

Secure attachment children become distressed when separated from their caregivers but quickly calm themselves and find comfort once reunited with them. You can use this approach to slowly start sleep training by sitting near their crib initially before gradually increasing distance over time.

1. You’ll Have More Energy

Studies show that babies who sleep and nap on schedule are happier, healthier, and better adjusted. Their moms benefit too – being happier and more rested makes for better mothering! Unfortunately, new moms don’t always manage to get enough restful slumber; this often leads to stress, anxiety and frustration for new mothers. Sleep training helps babies learn to fall asleep on their own during night-time naps as well as daily bedtime slumber. Sleep training also allows parents to free up more energy for self-care and personal relationships such as romantic partners, family, friends or coworkers!

Parents often worry that changing their baby’s sleep habits could damage the bond they share, by forcing him or her to “cry it out.” In reality, however, the opposite is often true: while sleep coaching may involve some crying episodes during which parents may need to intervene with frequent feedings and diaper changes or rocking and cuddling or other forms of affection and care as part of building healthy bonds between themselves and their little one.

Studies have proven that both the Cry It Out method and Fading technique (which allows brief periods of comfort before leaving for longer intervals) result in babies sleeping through the night and napping more regularly; when done properly, training will last.

Notably, these studies do not measure actual sleep improvement but rather parent reports of it. But even if sleep coaches’ children don’t sleep as well as those of non-sleep-trainers do until age two; studies have demonstrated that any differences are less noticeable by then.

2. You’ll Have More Time

Sleep training can be an intimidating task, activating our fight-or-flight response and demanding great amounts of self-control to manage the distressing moments (particularly if your baby struggles). But sleep training doesn’t need to be stressful; in fact, it may strengthen both of your bonds while simultaneously creating happy independent sleeping habits for yourself both of which will benefit.

Multiple studies have proven that well-rested babies do better in school, are healthier, and less likely to be diagnosed with health issues in later life. Sleep training can help your family develop healthy sleeping habits for long-term success and more free time together.

Your energy will increase as soon as your baby sleeps soundly, enabling you to run errands without their becoming bored or fussy, and to focus on yourself and relationships without worry or distraction. Sleep also makes you a better parent by helping you become more patient, attentive and fun!

Parents attempting sleep coaching typically employ the “cry it out” method. This involves setting a consistent bedtime routine and placing their baby in his crib, then gradually leaving the room for increasing lengths of time before checking back in periodically with them for comforting purposes or emergency reasons – taking great care not to engage or engage them back into sleeping patterns.

Many new parents fear that sleep coaching techniques will damage or delay emotional regulation and healthy development of their newborn, however attachment is an ongoing process and should not be affected by sleep coaching techniques.

3. You’ll Be More Patient

Sleep training often involves some fussing and crying, which may make new parents concerned that it will change their bond with their child. But in actuality, sleep coaching actually strengthens it! A consistent bedtime routine helps your baby relax into restful slumber. And after doing it for several nights in a row, eventually your little one learns how to self-settle into restful slumber without your assistance!

Sleep coaching helps to establish healthy sleeping patterns for your infant throughout their lives. While babies often wake at various hours during the night, when they have had a good night’s rest they won’t be as likely to get up and play during those wakeups. Quality rest can also have positive ramifications on emotional and mental wellbeing; getting more rest will provide more energy and clarity which will allow for improved response to night wakings from your child.

Some sleep training methods, like the Ferber or Weissbluth method, are known as cry it out methods because they require you to let your child cry (or scream) for a period of time while remaining nearby. Other techniques, like the fade-in/put-down method or pick-up/put-down method are less drastic but still involve checking on and placing them down for sleep at specific intervals.

Be mindful that creating an independent sleep pattern takes time, so if you find yourself becoming overwhelmed, shift your perspective by recalling all of the positive reasons you are undertaking sleep training – even writing it down can help!

4. You’ll Be More Attentive

One of the greatest concerns when sleep training their baby is that it will damage attachment. This worry stems from sleep coaching’s potential to involve plenty of fussing and crying – something which any parent might worry will harm attachment. But these fears are unfounded: attachment forms through hundreds of daily interactions between mother and child and sleep training is simply one small component. Sleep training will only deepen your bond.

Additionally, numerous sleep training methods have been proven effective. One such strategy is the “cry it out” (also referred to as full extinction or Ferber sleep training), where parents take their infant through a bedtime routine of cuddling, kissing and leaving him or her alone before leaving them in their crib. They may return at first sign of crying but remain out for longer intervals each time; some parents choose camping out in their child’s room instead as an effective means of teaching self-soothing at night.

No matter your method, sleep training your child should never involve spoiling them but rather teaching independent and healthy sleep habits. By sticking to a solid schedule, your baby will learn how to fall asleep on his or her own and remain asleep throughout each cycle, making nighttime awakenings less of an inconvenience while making you more present and emotionally available during their waking hours.

5. You’ll Be More Connected

Parenting presents many hot topics for discussion and debate: breastfeeding vs bottle feeding, co-sleeping versus baby-wearing and the timing and technique for solid food introduction are just a few examples of such debates; but few topics seem to generate as much excitement among both moms and dads than sleep training! Sleep training is a proven method for getting babies sleeping independently at night – giving all involved more restful nights overall!

By providing their child with consistent, soothing bedtime routines that teach healthy self-soothing habits from an early age, parents can establish lifelong practices of healthy self-soothing. Studies have also demonstrated that children coached in sleep have significantly fewer night wakings and experience higher quality rest overall – which allows them to fall asleep quicker and stay asleep for longer. Sleep coaching may lead to improved cognitive development, improved behavior and attention spans, locomotor skills improvements and flexible cognitive development among other benefits.

Though some forms of baby sleep training, such as “cry it out” and the Ferber method, are notorious for creating parental anxiety, modern sleep coaching methods are much gentler. Even Dr. Benjamin Spock himself advised parents to “put your baby to bed at a reasonable hour, say goodnight affectionately but firmly and leave the room.” Furthermore, research does not indicate any damage being done to parent-child bonds by sleep training; in fact many studies demonstrate how restful parents can better nurture and connect with their child during the day.